A People

We all crave a people, a place to connect with other likeminded humans…to make a difference in something —to contribute to something that’s meaningful and purposed. I think deep down theres a constant push/pull of the human emotions, actions and desires.

But when people say “Where are my people” I get it.

There’s something about gathering the like minded both in heart and mission that transforms the atmosphere and the inner world. I’ve felt over the years the best way to get to know people is to create moments for connection. Sure it can be uncomfortable at times but overall that’s where I’ve made my best of friends.

Friendship isn't easy. To be included or include others, you have to take a risk and be vulnerable.

“People can make space for you but you have to accept the invitation and show up with your heart ready to embrace the moment and the people. If you can't do that, there's a chance that people may never be good enough for you and you'll move from group to group your whole life, never really being or having true friends. Embrace the hard. Do the work to let your walls down in a safe environment with good people Be yourself. Let yourself be loved. Friendship isn't easy but with effort and commitment you'll find that it's worth it!” -Shelly Giglio

I was listening to a podcast the other day that said in this current day and age we are the most lonely generation but at the same time the internet has given us the opportunity to connect with humans more easily. Which I find so interesting…but what that says to me is we aren’t doing the connecting with each other very well. There’s a whole host of reasons why (that I’m sure you and I could list and identify)…but what I’d rather do is encourage us (including myself) to take the risk for relationship. Send the text, make the phone call, write the letter, make the plan for people to come over and have a meal, or go on an afternoon adventure with a few people. It’s worth the effort to find your people. I really believe growth happens in interactions with humans and you’ll be surprised how much you will learn about yourself in the process.

Here’s a few questions to ask yourself in this process:

“Do I believe I need people to thrive?”

“Do I feel worthy of relationships?” “Do I feel valuable?”

“Why don’t I initiate with people…Am I afraid of rejection? Why?”

“Do I feel at home with myself in a group of friends?” “Why yes or why not?”

I hope you can take a temperature of where you are with friendships, community and building a life with people. I have experienced the best of life in community. Even thought I am an introvert that’s no excuse to the need for people, community and people knowing me on a vulnerable level.

I pray you find the courage and experience the beauty as you grow in community with others. You’ll be surprised how God uses moments like these and likely people will thank you later for taking the initial risk.